Motivating Men

i havent gone out in a date for awhile now. Its my choice but mostly because i havent had time. A friend once mentioned when we were chatting up why we have not dated in a while, he said... that there is no girl out there that's "motivating me"... so i thought... as someone single and looking, what will motivate men... and more importantly what motivates me to look.

to the first question... since im not a dude, i will throw it out there...

is it how we look that will motivate you?
the smile in our face?
or is it the sadness, or the loneliness?
is it because we smell good?
or is it because you are looking for that one person?


to girls...

is it how they look?
is it cause the are smart and cute?
or is it because you are trying to get over someone else?
is it then because, you need someone?
or is because you want someone who you want to share a lot of time with?


what motivates me?

at first it was to look for that one special guy... then i found the pleasure of dating and the excitement of the game... till that one special night that he swept me off my feet, respected me and taught me a little about commitment. Then, we both realized that it's not meant to be.

i cried. i tried to move on.

im trying to show others how much respect he showed me. to no longer play and goof around but to show real care. but as i got into it... i fell into playing... i am always real. what i say is true... but at one point all i can think about is him. that i miss him. that i want to love him.

i dont know if he loves me nor if there is another time and place where we can Be.

Maybe its not him, maybe its someone.

to love and respect someone as much as i could and for him to want to do the same for me.

as i said before, love bug kills. loneliness kills. how do we get out? i think is that think of what will motivate you to live another day, to go out and to try to love again...

why are we doing all of these?

Why Women Go Needy?

could it be because...

1. At the end of the day, they just want to be taken care of no matter how strong they portray themselves to be. I think this goes the same for men but women, express this need more. Also, i think because women is relational and social beings, they need and want presence (not pertaining or limited to physical presence).

2. Women has a lot to be insecure about. OK fine. So does Men. Insecurities spells out the need for more compliments and assurance from people she is trying to get attention from.

3. She is looking for more. More than what the other person can give or want to give. Satisfaction is never an easy thing to establish. Striking a balance between reality and dreams has to be achieved. There are few moments in life where the two intersect. So, keep trying because those moments are worth it.

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of course, these are based on personal experiences... haha. :D