Satisfaction with Life Scale
http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200704/tows_past_20070411_b.jhtml
Your total score: 22
If you scored 15 or under, you are dissatisfied with your life. If you scored 31 or higher, you are extremely satisfied with your life.
If you scored somewhere in the middle, happiness expert Dr. Robert Holden has some advice on how to live a more satisfying life. Dr. Holden says the key to being happy is overcoming "destination addiction," which he defines as "living in the not-now."
"It's always about tomorrow, so you're chasing 'more,' 'next' and 'there,'" he says. "You promise yourself that when you get there, you'll be happy. And I promise you, you won't, because you'll always set another destination to go for."
Instead, Dr. Holden says if you are unhappy with your life or looking to improve your score, there are two things you can do. "We have to learn to let go of our past, we have to give up all hopes for a perfect past. Let the past go, it's gone." After that, he says, "Take a vow of kindness. Be kinder to yourself and to others.
"It's never too late to be happy," he says.
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Emotions like happiness is a choice we make. Not that we create them but we manage them. People will make us angry, comedians will make us laugh, death will still make us sad.
the thing is, We should learn to manage them.
cheers!
Emotional IQ Test
http://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=1121
Our Emotional Intelligence Test consists of two parts; a self-report portion and an ability portion. The test assesses your capacity to recognize your own emotions and those of others; understand how best to motivate yourself; become close to others; and manage your own feelings and those of others. Emotional intelligence contributes a great deal to your potential in life. A poor emotional intelligence can hold a brilliant individual back from achieving his or her goals, while a good EIQ can help someone who might otherwise struggle achieve success in life.
Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 110
Subscale percentile = 77
According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.
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**The analysis is quite general but it affirms how i feel... i was just doing my report for my theology classes and it was about Emotional Intelligence which moved me to blog about it...
Daniel Goleman suggests in his book "Emotional Intelligence, Why is it more important than IQ?" a person needs to follow 5 guidelines to improve one's emotional intelligence. These are:
1. know one's emotions as they occur
2. manage one's emotions appropriately
3. Impulse and motivation - persistent and delayed gratification
4. Being Sensitive to others feelings
5. making and managing one's relationships
I think the description of my EQ test expounds on these guidelines more. Moreover, it is important to know that emotions can be managed and controlled.
To all women out there! snap out of it. ;) remember, your emotions does not only affect how you deal with others but how you feel about yourself and it even affects your health.
feeling down lately?! exercise. eat healthy. laugh!
