2008 New Years Resolution

i just scanned through my blog... i realized even though i wasn't able to blog as much as i wanted last year, i wrote many good, socially and personally relevant entries... i think thats one important point in blogging anyway... ;)

Resolution, meaning there is something that needs to be fixed or resolved. doi.

1. Blog more, at least 2 a month. Not just about quantity but quality, im sure i can think of something to good to say. the problem is, i write on a whim. only when i feel like it. I think that shouldn't be. Sometimes a writer just have to write even when the zest is not there.

2. Save More, to have a least P30,000 in my personal bank account by the end of the year. Not much, but its reachable. Thats about P6000 a month. I think thats possible. depending of course when i start working and what my starting salary is. But a goal still has to set.

3. Travel. doesnt quite coincide with my 2nd new years resolution... hehe. But i dont have to travel far. I could just channel weekly saturday night out to once a month weekend getaway to the provinces.... right?

Game.

Hopefully, by the end of this year, i would blog about my successes. haha.

Are you Happy?

Satisfaction with Life Scale
http://www.oprah.com/tows/pastshows/200704/tows_past_20070411_b.jhtml



Your total score: 22

If you scored 15 or under, you are dissatisfied with your life. If you scored 31 or higher, you are extremely satisfied with your life.

If you scored somewhere in the middle, happiness expert Dr. Robert Holden has some advice on how to live a more satisfying life. Dr. Holden says the key to being happy is overcoming "destination addiction," which he defines as "living in the not-now."

"It's always about tomorrow, so you're chasing 'more,' 'next' and 'there,'" he says. "You promise yourself that when you get there, you'll be happy. And I promise you, you won't, because you'll always set another destination to go for."

Instead, Dr. Holden says if you are unhappy with your life or looking to improve your score, there are two things you can do. "We have to learn to let go of our past, we have to give up all hopes for a perfect past. Let the past go, it's gone." After that, he says, "Take a vow of kindness. Be kinder to yourself and to others.

"It's never too late to be happy," he says.


--------

Emotions like happiness is a choice we make. Not that we create them but we manage them. People will make us angry, comedians will make us laugh, death will still make us sad.

the thing is, We should learn to manage them.

cheers!

Emotional Intelligence

Emotional IQ Test
http://www.queendom.com/tests/access_page/index.htm?idRegTest=1121

Our Emotional Intelligence Test consists of two parts; a self-report portion and an ability portion. The test assesses your capacity to recognize your own emotions and those of others; understand how best to motivate yourself; become close to others; and manage your own feelings and those of others. Emotional intelligence contributes a great deal to your potential in life. A poor emotional intelligence can hold a brilliant individual back from achieving his or her goals, while a good EIQ can help someone who might otherwise struggle achieve success in life.

Snapshot Report
Self-report Component
Subscale IQ score = 110
Subscale percentile = 77


According to your self-report answers, your emotional intelligence is average. People who score like you do feel that their ability to understand and deal with their own emotions and those of others is acceptable but could still use some improvement. Emotionally intelligent people have an easy time overcoming difficulties in their lives and they are generally able to control their moods. It’s easy for them to motivate themselves to overcome obstacles and reach their goals. In addition, they find social interactions to be quite easy and fulfilling, for several reasons. They are comfortable allowing themselves to get close with others, and feel comfortable being vulnerable enough to establish intimacy. They also report having an easy time offering support to others; likely due to an empathetic nature and a clear mind when it comes to offering good advice. Perhaps by working on your problem areas, you can become more confident in dealing with your own emotions and those of others.


-----------------------


**The analysis is quite general but it affirms how i feel... i was just doing my report for my theology classes and it was about Emotional Intelligence which moved me to blog about it...

Daniel Goleman suggests in his book "Emotional Intelligence, Why is it more important than IQ?" a person needs to follow 5 guidelines to improve one's emotional intelligence. These are:

1. know one's emotions as they occur
2. manage one's emotions appropriately
3. Impulse and motivation - persistent and delayed gratification
4. Being Sensitive to others feelings
5. making and managing one's relationships

I think the description of my EQ test expounds on these guidelines more. Moreover, it is important to know that emotions can be managed and controlled.

To all women out there! snap out of it. ;) remember, your emotions does not only affect how you deal with others but how you feel about yourself and it even affects your health.

feeling down lately?! exercise. eat healthy. laugh!

Colorful World

It is so unfair that when you finally met someone you truly want to fall in love with and who is more than willing to catch you, they then needs to leave.


It is so not fair.


People say, maybe he is not the one. Maybe you will see him again. Maybe this is a test of your feelings. If so, one thing strikes, does he feel the same way. Only way for any of this is true if we both feel the same way. Otherwise, its suicide.

Why colorful world?

Cause it is my first great love (cheers!). i see and feel things around me in a more colorful way. I realize now how my people cant eat after a break up or why they need to be rushed to the hospital after taking pills and drinking past their limit... its not that i approve or am saying that it is normal but, i now understand why people go through that.

is that his purpose in my life? for me to feel love in the right amount, to make me dream and not bitter?

--
Justine Castillo is a Filipina currently living in her home country. She uses this blog to punish herself by revisiting and rethinking her past experiences. Still she continues to blog because she believes that her words someday will be worth Millions. Also, she is a self-confessed megalomaniac.